# 336

Posted: 20/11/2009 16:24

Hi Purple glad you are improved. Any nice plans to look forward to for the weekend?

# 335

Posted: 19/11/2009 19:55

Hi Purple,

Im glad you went to the doctor, you should start to feel better very soon.

Bernie

# 334

Posted: 19/11/2009 14:37

hi berni

my GP upped my medication for me im on three tablets a day now for my depression, he said i to go back to c him in three weeks, my GP is great i can tell him anything, i was going to get my husband to come in with me but i said no i wanted to do this myself, i was ok, he did ask me how my husband was, i told him i no he went through a depression a few weeks ago as i got it out of him, i told him that i was depressed very badly two weeks ago as my husband had to go into hospital for a conory angoram, he said of course u wuould be like that, he did ask me if i could talk to my husband about the way i feel, i said yes he listens to me, but never would say snap out of it, im going to be ok, thanks,

# 333

Posted: 19/11/2009 14:04

Hi Purple,

When you go to the doctor bring your husband along for moral support and tell the doctor straight out that you feel you're crying all the time and that the tablets you are on need to be upped a bit.

We always feel afraid to talk to doctors because they studied for so long to be doctors, but you know your body better than anybody else does and you have the right to tell him what you want.

Il be thinking of you lets know how it all goes.

Take care of yourself

Bernie

# 332

Posted: 18/11/2009 21:41

hi berni

ihope my GP upps my meds, my husband is good, he trys his best, i dont no how he puts up with me and my moods, sunday night we had an argument, i was so upset, i no he is fed up with all this, he went through a bad patch depression so he knows what im going through, but menapause men dont no whats its like, they dont no what a womans body is going through, at the moment my breasts are tender,, i am loosing the weight which is great, but dont ask me how im loosing it , i havent got a great eating habit, people have comment on me losing weight which im loving to hear, my hubby even said that to me, but at the end of the day the depression is still there.

# 331

Posted: 18/11/2009 18:01

Hi Purple,

Sorry to hear you are feeling down.  I think you might need to up your depression medication.  I have to do that sometimes when things get me down. There an organisation called Aware that have meetings every week.  Theyre all over Ireland and going to a meeting might be a good move.  Ive started going and I find them helpfull because its good to know that you are not alone and then you don't feel quite so low.

The menopause can cause you to feel down but I never felt that it caused me to get that upset but the depression certainly has.  You sound like your hubby's a little angel and understands how you are feeling you are so lucky.  When I feel bad I'm told tby my husband to have a walk and I will feel better, only someone who has never experienced depression in their lives can come up with that.  They so do not understand that with depression you can lose the will to open your eyes in the morning never mind go walking.

Take a trip to the doctor, and take good care of yourself.

Bernie

# 330

Posted: 18/11/2009 14:53

Hi Purple, sorry to hear you are feeling under the weather at the moment. These can be trying times. It sounds like your hubby is very supportive so that is something. Sounds like you need to curl up in front of the fire with a nice glass of wine, some choccies and a girly movie (ok not a medically recognised form of help but still!)

Regards

# 329

Posted: 18/11/2009 12:42

hi

i had yet another badnight last night, i told my hubby that i couldnt cope no more with the depression, i also told him which was the hardest thing for me to admit that i just wanted to get out, he was totally shocked by  that, i just thought of it for a sceond and then said what am i thinking about, i have a wounderful loving husband and two loving kids,my hysband told me go and c r GP he will help you with the depression, probaby upp my meds which i think i might need, im not sleeping properely, moods are really nasty, crying all the time, i feel  so lost, its not fair on my kids or husband. im going to c my GP tomorrow,

# 328

Posted: 17/11/2009 11:50

hi buzz

i had a not so night lastnight, cried for a while,i no its my menapause, cause if it were my depression i would go and c my GP, my husband who is trying his best with me said to me the other night that he hates to c me crying, lastnight,i hate this, today im really down, i had an argument last night with my hubby, i feel lost,

# 327

Posted: 16/11/2009 12:38

hi buzz

yes u r right, christmas has everything to do with people feeling low, now dont get me wrong, i love christmas, but with the recession going on and the christmas bonus gone we are scraping, kids nowadays want the best, i went out yesterday and started my chrsitmas shopping, but things are so expensive

# 326

Posted: 16/11/2009 10:40

Had a baaaaaad weekend too. I think the run up to Christmas can be a trying time for some. Financial worry, the pressure to conform to the general "happiness and craziness" of the season, not to mention divided loyalties and who to actually spend what is possibly the most boring day of the year with! Bah Humbug! xx

# 325

Posted: 14/11/2009 23:16

hi girls

i have had a few bad days, cried the other night, I'm trying to get back to doing my normal things.My arm is geting better, which yes is great.

# 324

Posted: 09/11/2009 13:07

hi berni

im so sorry about your family loss, when my father inlaw died 9 years ago i was davasated, i was trying to hold up for my husband, he was shuting me out, wouldnt let me in, like a man he didnt like me seeing him cry, so i pulled him into my arm and told him, i am here for u , i love u,

# 323

Posted: 08/11/2009 15:27

Hi All,

This has not been a good week for me.  My mother in law has been sick for the past four months and we were told last Saturday that she was dying.  We all stayed by her bedside and she finally died friday morning at 4am.  Im trying to be strong for the family especially my husband.

Bernie

# 322

Posted: 06/11/2009 14:52

hi all

im not too bad now, my husband got an angiogram done this morning, he definilty has heart diease, but the doctors said he is comming on well, i think i was low because i was more worried about him going in for this test. he is home and fine, thanks.

# 321

Posted: 01/11/2009 22:13

hi berni

well im like a witch now, i just hope this passes soon, i hate being like this,but lastnight my mother inlaw put me in bad form, she was complianing about two of her grandkids,the two grandkids were down for the bonfire and fireworks, but the little one she is afraid, she said god she never stop crying, i said stop her da will hear u, she said i dont care, better still he will stop bringing them to me, i was like, i wanted to hit her. she is a bleeding moan bad about, people, i said to my husbad your ma is a f*****g moan bad, i was waiting on him to comment, like that is my mother, no he said u r right, she never has a nice word to say about anyone.she askes about my son who has the autism i said ah he is ok, i wont tell her nothing like the way he is with us, as she would be like ah he needs a slap or too,

# 320

Posted: 31/10/2009 23:43

hi

this menapause has me really weary this month, my breasts are very tender,, im crying most night, emotional most days. my husband is trying his best, but men dont no whats its like for woman to go through this.

# 319

Posted: 30/10/2009 23:20

hi

my husband was asking me tonight, what r we going to do about him, i said u call his doctor tell him what is going on, r son doesnt give a damn about anyone but himself and his mates, he had another screaming match this evening,im more worried about my husbands health as he has heart diease and he suffers with high bloodpressure, i suffer with hight bloodpressure too, but him he gets headaches if her yells, which he cant help, we warned r son this evening that if he is not taking his meds then he goes back on the injections, i no he isnt taking his meds as he is a total monster, he tried to say so sorry to day, but that was just to get out with his mates, tomorrow he will be the same, i feel it for my other son,  he is 14 and he doesnt get a look in with him all the attention is on his older brother, and he feels this,i told my husband tonight this has to stop, r youngest has had no proper life, he is 14 and we need to be ther e for him,

# 318

Posted: 30/10/2009 15:41

Hi Pink,

Sorry to hear whats going on but I don't think you have a choice but to get your son help.  We don't always know whats best for us even when we are adults and sometimes the things we dread the most turns out to be the best decision and has the best outcome.  If he does go where he can get help they wont take any guff from him and he will have to stick with the rules whether he likes it or not.  When we love our children the way you and your husband love your son it often means we are hurt by them and their comments and behaviour and if you do sent him off for help it doesent mean you don't love him.  Theres a saying about when you love them let they go it can be really hard but maybe it would be for the best for the whole family.

Bernie

# 317

Posted: 30/10/2009 11:24

Hi Pink,

Unfortunately the menopause can make us very tearful and angry.  I was like a witch with a capital B last night id swear there must be a full moon around now im very narky altogether.  Its not always easy being a woman.  Try and watch something uplifting even if it doesent lighten the mood it should relax you which is a good start.

Talk care of yourself

Bernie

# 316

Posted: 30/10/2009 11:19

Hi Broken

Found a couple of address on Neurodegenerative Disease which may be helpful for your sister.

info@ncii.ie

The National Counselling Institute of Irelands Email address

They may be able to help you find a counseller who could help.

lansbury.bwh.harvard.edu/literature.htm

This is a literature database on neurodegenerative disease

This is a general information page.

I hope it may be of some little help.

Bernie

# 315

Posted: 30/10/2009 11:07

Hi Broken,

I have been trawelling the various sites since your last message and I can only imagine the frustration you must be feeling at the lack of support and even basic information on Autoimmune disease.  I found a website in the states which may be of help to you.  Their address is www.inspire.com hopefully you just may get something positive from visiting their website.  I know it must be really difficult to see your twin suffering, its so hard to see those we love suffer and be unable to do anything about it.  Counselling can be helpful even if the counseller does not have firsthand experience of the illness they should be able to still offer support, Im sure a lot of councellers councell clients with experiences that they have no firsthand experience of themsaelves.  I hope this has been of some help sorry I cannot offer anything more.

Take care

Bernie

# 314

Posted: 29/10/2009 22:57

hi all

my husband and i had a hugh row with r son who has autism, he is going out drinking with his mates as soon as he comes home from work, nothing in his stomach. but what gets me is he is always saying so sorry to us after, we r at r wits end swith him, my husband told me tonight he cant cope no more with him, neither can i, as soon as we mention that we were going to send him to a place that can cope with him he went beserk, screaming shouting at us both, telling us both how he hates us both and we r no longer his parents, im ringing is clinic tomorrow as we cant handle this no more,, im more worried for my husband health, he has heart diease, and suffers badly with high blodpressure. i said to my son tonight, stop this im not having u saying this to your father especially when he is there for u 24/7, and he is.

# 313

Posted: 28/10/2009 19:18

hi all

i was grand for a few weeks, then all of a sudden yesterday evening i was totally down, i was in floods last night, i told my hubby its the menapause,

# 312

Posted: 26/10/2009 21:08

please could i ask the many people on this discussion where i may find support and advice on how to help a person with a neurodegenerative disorder? the advice i need most is - how to help without being intrusive and also to 'preserve my own health' as it is bad too.

I also have similiar disorder but also am immune compromised with a cluster of autoimmune diseases so i tire very very easily.  the person i want to help is my dear twin sister.

in anticipation of replies.  I have tried to ask this question on other discussion pages and so far drawn a blank.  Is there a counselling service for people with disabilities?  Not peer counselling.  I dont feel that is for me.

broken

"Clever people master life and the wise illuminate it and create fresh difficulties"

# 311

Posted: 25/10/2009 11:00

Hi Pink,

Im glad your'e getting support - it's important to be able to ring someone when your son gets too much for you.  The poor thing's probably in a lot of pain, that's why hes out of sorts. I'm sure the antibiotics will have him feeling much better soon.  Take care of yourself.

Bernie

# 310

Posted: 23/10/2009 23:11

hi berni

my sons was out of sorts as i just found out that he has an abscess underneath his tooth, he is in a lot of pain, because of the way he is he does'nt realise what he had to do,he is on antbioyicsics now and he is ok, but he is still angry at me and his da, i was talking to a person who is helping him in his course, they asked what he was like at home, so i told them.i have to contact them at anytime if i need to- thanks,

# 309

Posted: 18/10/2009 13:05

Hi Purple,

Being a parent isent always easy, you have it a bit harder again because of your sons autism but they can all be little bowsies and try it on you are probably feeling a bit fragile at the moment with your arm and everything. Try and go up and lie on your bed when your at the end of your rope and just stare at the sky I know it sounds mad but I find it calms me maybe its because its blue or something I dont know but when you have stepped away from the problem  for a little while you go back more able to deal with it. Its gas we cant wait to have them the nine months wont go fast enough and we spend the rest of our lives wishing we could send them back ha ha

Bernie

# 308

Posted: 16/10/2009 22:35

hi girls

i still feel so miserable, i cant do nothing, i feel useless, i had a good cry last night, i told my hubby its not fair he has to do it all, he say to me , what i should do is do something that i can do without hurting my arm, i have tried, but anything i do it hurts so badly, i have treid my excerise but it still hurts,i cant even do my driving lessons, and this is making me really depressed, my hubby buys me a car, and i cant go out driving it, i feel lost, cant help the way i feel, .

# 307

Posted: 15/10/2009 18:05

hi berni

i rang the clinic where he attends and i got talking to one of the staff, he said my sons nurse who looks after him is away this week, and he will send the message that i gave him to her monday, he couldnt believe that he act like that, not this evening he is totally different, he got a hugh warning of his da last night, i feel lost as it is as my arm is up in a strap, i was told i was to do nothing, im fed up not being able to do anything, and because he was aksed to do a little thing he flys of the handle, thanks berni, im really greatful, thanks

# 306

Posted: 15/10/2009 16:37

Hi Purple,

You have to do what is right for you all, and if that is to send him somewhere that he will be looked after mayby thats for the best. You have a lot to deal with healthwise and so has your husband.  Have you a good doctor that you can talk to about how difficult everything is for you all.  At the end of the day your boys are lucky to have you and you will still be their mother no matter what decisions you come to.  Il be thinking of you.

Bernie

# 305

Posted: 14/10/2009 21:34

hi girls

i really done no what to do, my son who has autism, its like a timebomb living with him, i hate the way he is going, he is on a fas course now, his da collects him today, and all we get of him him is that we r the ones that r ungreatful, we have looked out for him for 20 years, he has gotten all the attention, his little brother who is 14 is injured, my son who is autisc, complains that his brother is getting attention not him, my hubby who has heart diease told him out straight tonight that he noes where the door is, he complains every time he comes home, i have suggested we send him out to a place that can cope with him,, he says ah no ma, i said yes this will give me and your da space. we r trying to do r best with him, i cant get over him be so deniel with his brother, he noes we have to look after his brother as he cant do it himself, i cant do anything in the house as my arm is up in a strap.

# 304

Posted: 12/10/2009 16:38

hi all

i went to the hospital to get physiotherapy on my sore arm, i had to be sent down to casualty for an xray, which showed that i have definitely got a bad tron tendon in my elbow and arm, im not joking u girls but i was in so much pain getting that done on my sore arm. they had to stop as i was in so much pain, and on top of that i get a call from my sons school, he was playing footie and he fell and snapped his collar bone, yes he is very very sore,, the school princial went to the hospital with him. im only home now and tired, but i was given strict instructions, no heavy lifting, which i was not doing, no doing any type of house hold work that will have my arm sore, me no way to much pain.

# 303

Posted: 08/10/2009 19:05

hi girls

yes im trying to excerise my arm, not that simple,after i exercise i am in terrible pain. I looked up the net the other day and sawn excatly what was wrong with my arm and elbow, my hubby saw it and he even said god that's painful. I'm getting help around the house, but like all women, i like to do my own thing. Writing is even sore, i had to just scribble my signature on my child benefit and carers allowance dockets, as i can't right properly, thanks girl for all the advice, im really greatful to you all.

# 302

Posted: 08/10/2009 09:02

Hi Purple

Sorry to hear about the arm and elbow thats rotten.  I have been taking difene and different things for tendonitis/brusitis/arthritis in my knee so I know the what pain is about.  Im with Broken on the peas theyre great for swelling and pain but always put a tea cloth over them so you dont get an ice burn from putting them directly on your arm.  When the swelling goes down you can  put heat on it, well thats what I was told to do anyway.  Its mad the way they make you exercise an injury thats what they always do in Physio to get it back moving but the problem with that is that they don't always know how much something is still hurting.  Moving it gently yourself so that it doesent go stiff is a good idea, and because your protecting your arm your probably putting a bit of strain on the neck muscles so try and get your husband to massage these and even up to your head because its all connected.  It will take a bit of time and the broken sleep is a curse so cat nap if you have to. mind yourself.

Bernie

# 301

Posted: 07/10/2009 17:13

hi broken

i was told to excerise the arm, which i am doing, but after a while its pure pain, hi buzz, yes tylex is hard on the stomach,but i only take one, thanks,

# 300

Posted: 07/10/2009 11:38

Be careful with tylex they are quite strong and also can be very harsh on the digestive system. Best to eat food before and also avoid anti inflammatories while you are taking them

# 299

Posted: 06/10/2009 22:31

hi buzz

im feeling low because i cant do anything in the house, i cant make a bed,do ironing, nothing, i cry most days and nights as i feel so helpless, my hubby is doing everything, im used to getting up early doing my own thing i cant do that now as i cant with my arm, my hubby does the sunday dinners, now he is doing all the week dinners, as i cant lift a pot, it terrible,

# 298

Posted: 06/10/2009 21:40

if they ask you to exercise the arm, would it be a suggestion to put a wheat bag in the microwave for 2/3 minutes and wrapped around the joint and then do the exercises?

It might help just a wee bit to relax the muscles.

also if the tendons are inflammed, would you try ice packs for short periods, a pack of peas would be good, but this i am not sure about so ask doc on that one.

also gentle massage with the fingers might help 'unknot' the muscles when they go into spasm, and any muscle that is in trauma will go into spasm cos its trying to cope with the pain.

just some suggestions for what it is worth, donno if any might work as i am not a doc, but i have done all these for various muscle probs and boy i have had em!

oh, i know the pain chuck yes, awful, and arms, arms are so useful so its extra hard when they are out of commission and hurt.

thinking of you,

xxb

"Clever people master life and the wise illuminate it and create fresh difficulties"

# 297

Posted: 06/10/2009 18:41

hi buzz

the hospital gave me tylex, and they are strong, i was on them before, but they are a meds that helps with pain relief, my GP would give me difene, but i have heard they are hard on the stomach, i have the cream, and that doesn't help it, .